I don’t know why, but there is something about a man wearing high heels that really ticks me. And if his heels are on a pair of thigh high boots then I’m sold!
Luckily I have a boyfriend who likes to wear both tall boots and high heels. He does so both in private and in public, but it hasn’t always been like that. At first he only wore his high heels indoors in private. And it took quite a long time before he dared taking his first steps outside.
It is sad but it seems true; what we fear the most is how those closest to us will react. Friends and family, neighbours and community. The first time he put on a pair of high heels was when we had a vacation abroad. It was a pair of booties with 8 cm. (a little more than 3 inches), block heels safely tucked away under a pair of long legged pants. I think the sound alone when his heels hit the ground scared him. But guess what – nobody raised an eyebrow. And I believe the keyword here was confidence. He tried his best to appear confident when walking.
Why am I telling you this story? I’m doing it because I believe there are men out there who would love to wear their high heels out in public. And hopefully this article can encourage some of you to take your first steps out the front door.
When we got home, I was afraid that he would pack away his heels, (or tall boots), and go back to only wearing them around the house. So we had a talk about it, and he continued wearing high heels. At first when driving back and forth to work, including stopping for gasoline.
Also, I would insist that he wore high heels when we went shopping for groceries. At first we chose malls that were at a distance from where we lived, and gradually worked our way closer to home. By now the keywords were; confidence and natural. By wearing high heels as often as possible it became a more natural feeling for him when walking down the street or into a mall in his high heels.
Today, putting on a pair of high heeled boots is as natural to him as putting on a pair of sneakers. Now it is more a questing about which pair of boots matches the outfit best.
Of course there are also times where high heels isn’t an option for him. For instance at work related activities, because of the office dress code and also for not wanting to put clients in an awkward position. We both know that not all people are comfortable with seeing a man wearing high heels and try to respect that in some circumstances. And there are also some parts of town that it simply wouldn’t be wise for a man to walk around in high heels. I know – that is so sad. But I believe the only thing that helps is if more men start wearing high heels in public and not make a fuzz about it.
For those of you that landed on this article and who are not used to seeing a man wearing high heeled thigh high boots – I have a request:
Don’t judge, harass or jump to conclusions. Be open minded and let people wear whatever they want. After all – it’s a pair of very nice looking thigh high boots. Luckily for me, it’s my boyfriend who are wearing them!